When some one you love hurts you, forgiving is the last thing you want to do, nor is it something that you are thinging about.
What does forgive and forgiveness mean?
Having a clear understanding of the meaning forgive and forgiveness is the foundation and major key to forgiving.
Forgive: stop feeling angry or resentful towards (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.
Forgiveness: the action or process of forgiving.
To forgive has everything to do with your emotions and forgiveness requires your actions.
Dealing with the emotions
Emotions are the first thing to manage. Take some time to allow yourself to feel what you feel. There is nothing wrong with the emotions that you are experiencing.
Notice I said “allow yourself to feel the emotions not act on them.”
Then, analyze the situation. Tell yourself the truth about what happen and what part you played. (Even if it hurts. You’ll thank me later!) Now forgive yourself, in fact forgiveness is for you.
Why should you forgive?
- Forgiveness is how you heal form pain or offense.
- It makes you strong. ( It takes a lot to forgive but it can be done and strength is what it takes.)
- You don’t need to hear or get an apology for you to forgive. Truth be told 99 times out of 100 they won’t apologize, and if they do more than likely it will happen again.
- You get to accept what happen and let it go . (You get free!!!!)
- It gives you control over the situation.
Things to do to help forgiving
- Do something for someone else.
- Read the Bible.
- Talk to someone you trust.
- Mediate on Gods word.
- Know your weakness.
- Join a support group.
- Start a hobby.
- Read self-help books.
- Set new boundaries.
- Do things that you enjoy.
Scriptures on forgiveness
John 8:7 “And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.””
John 8:7 ESV
Hebrews 12:14 “Strive to live in peace with everybody and pursue that consecration and holiness without which no one will [ever] see the Lord.”
Hebrews 12:14 AMPC
James 5:16 “Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].”
James 5:16 AMPC
Forgiveness is a process with the proper knowledge and with time you will be healed. Please let me know if this has helped you below. Be blessed.
Where there’s a will, there’s a Jewel. 💎